The Church has a rich tradition on sacramental marriage and covenantal union. The Old Testament authors write of God making a covenant with the chosen people and promising them that they will never be forsaken. The New Testament authors write of Jesus as the new covenant and compare the relationship of Jesus with the Church to the relationship of a husband and wife. The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership for the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring.

Matrimony, or Marriage, like Holy Orders, is a sacrament that consecrates for a particular mission in building up the Church. It is seen as a sign of the love between Christ and the Church, which is established between spouses in a permanent and exclusive bond, sealed by God. The Sacrament gives couples the grace they need to attain holiness in their married life and for responsible acceptance and upbringing of their children.

Other Marriage Quote

“How can I ever express the happiness of a marriage joined by the church….? How wonderful the bond between two believers, now one in hope, one in desire one in disciline, one in the same service..undivided in spirit and flesh, truly two in one flesh.Where the flesh is one, so also is the spirit.”


Getting Married at St. Anthony

Dear Engaged Couple,

Congratulations on your decision to marry. We are happy that you will exchange your vows in our parish.

Weddings are special, joyful times for couples, for their families and friends, and for the parish community. The Church welcomes you to celebrate your marriage in a setting in which you are accustomed to worship as Catholics. For us, as believing Catholics, matrimony is a sacrament, a visible sign of God’s invisible blessings and of the Lord’s presence in our lives.

Great care is taken to see that the prayers for this special moment are reverent, graceful, and open to the movement of God’s spirit among us. Whenever sacraments are celebrated, an important place is given to the Scriptures so that we can be nourished and strengthened by God’s Word. We celebrate the sacraments as a community and invite our brothers and sisters to join us and ask for their prayerful support. The presence of our relatives and friends allows us to celebrate with joy and thanksgiving.

Since we are celebrating the Sacrament of Matrimony and not simply “having a wedding,” St. Anthony Parish provides the following guidelines for celebrating that special moment in your lives.


It is presumed that at least one member of the engaged couple is a practicing Catholic and a registered parishioner of St. Anthony Parish. A practicing Catholic is a person who believes in and lives by the tenets of the Catholic faith, i.e., attends Mass each week and frequently receives the Sacrament of Penance.

The Guidelines for the Archdiocese of Boston regarding marriage require that those wishing to marry should notify the parish priest at least six months prior the wedding date.

The couple planning to marry should expect to meet with either the priest or deacon to complete the necessary forms and to make preparations for the actual celebration itself.

The couple will be required to take part in a Marriage Preparation Program, either one recommended by or approved of by St. Anthony Parish.

There are many couples who are not members of our parish or diocese. We are happy to accommodate those couples when possible. A letter of permission from the pastors of parishes other than our own must be presented with the paperwork is initiated.

Recently issued copies (within six months) of the Baptismal and Confirmation records for the Catholic couple or individual must be brought to the first consultation with the priest or deacon. The copies of the certificates may be obtained from the parishes where the sacraments were administered. Non-Catholics who are baptized are also asked to bring a copy of their Baptismal or Christening record.

Matrimony is a Sacrament; therefore the Catholic couple should plan to receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation (Confession) shortly before the marriage day.



It is necessary that you arrange for your music ministers as soon as you have set your wedding date with the parish priest. Our organist, Kathleen Keyes (781-545-5058) will assist you in your selection of music for your wedding. Music selections must be made according to the Archdiocesan Guidelines which simply put are “Church music in church, and non-church music elsewhere.”

You may request that the music be provided by musicians not of our parish. In this latter case, all arrangements must be made through Mrs. Keyes. All financial arrangements between you and the music minister(s) are to be handled directly and not through the arranging priest. The diocesan policy requires that the parish organist be used. If a different organist is used, the usual compensation must be made to the parish organist.


Weddings are scheduled on Saturdays between 1:00 PM and 3:00 PM, but always two hours apart. A Saturday evening wedding can be arranged at 6:15 PM. These times are restricted since Confessions are heard at 4:00 PM, and there is a Parish Mass at 5:00 PM on Saturday. Sunday weddings can be arranged after 2:00 PM.


We ask that you kindly inform your guests to refrain from throwing rice, confetti or anything else. It is forbidden to throw rose petals inside the church.


You may wish to provide flowers for the sanctuary for your wedding. Two floral bouquets are sufficient. Flowers may be taken from the church following the wedding if you so desire. If there is more than one wedding on a given day, you will be given the name of the other party so that you can coordinate the arranging of flowers is you wish, thereby eliminating unnecessary expense and duplication of floral arrangements.

A runner for the church is not allowed under any circumstances. Bows, etc. on pew ends are allowed but must be fastened by ribbon or clamps, sticky material, is forbidden. It is necessary that you inform your florist of this rule to avoid any embarrassment.


Most couples like to have a remembrance of their wedding ceremony. However, we make every effort to make sure that your wedding ceremony is in every way possible a spiritual experience of faith. To that end, the photographer or videographer must not move once the ceremony has begun. Under no circumstances are they to be beyond the designated sanctuary area.


If you have a relative or close friend who is a priest or deacon and you would like to have him witness your marriage, you are most welcome to do so. Please discuss this with the parish priest so that the necessary permissions, both legal and ecclesiastical, can be obtained.

If one of the parties is a member of a Protestant Church, his or her minister is most welcome to be a participant in the wedding ceremony. Particulars can be worked out with the priest arranging the wedding ceremony.


It is customary to offer a donation to the church on the occasion of the celebration of marriage. The suggested donation for those who are registered and participating members of St. Anthony Parish is $375.00. The donation for non-parishioners is $675.00. The donation must be brought to the rehearsal along with the license.


At the first meeting with the priest or deacon, please bring a copy of your Baptism and Confirmation Certificates. If you do not have them, please contact the church where you received these sacraments and have them send the records to you.

On the night of rehearsal, please bring the following:

License – You must obtain a license issued by any town or city in Massachusetts within 30 days of your wedding.

Selection Form – You will receive a booklet with all of the options for your wedding ceremony, i.e. reading, prayers, etc. The inside of the back cover contains a pull-out sheet called a “selection form.” After carefully making your selection, fill out the form and bring it to the rehearsal.

St. Anthony Parish—The offering for the church.

Altar Servers—A customary tip of $20.00 each is sufficient.


A time for the rehearsal will be mutually agreed upon with the priest. Please arrive on time out of consideration for both the priest and the other wedding parties who might be scheduled for that weekend. There are two options in regard to the procession:

Traditional procession: Ushers as a group two by two, bridesmaids in a single line, flower girl and ring bearer, maid of honor, bride with father.

Family procession: Ushers and bridesmaids two by two, flower girl and ring bearer, maid of honor, bride with parents.

Note: Little children, i.e., under the age of five are to be discouraged from being in the wedding procession.

One best man and one maid (matron) of honor only.


For Catholics: Catholics fully participate in the celebration of the Eucharist when they receive Holy Communion in fulfillment of Christ’s command. In order to be properly disposed to receive Communion, communicants should not be conscious of grave sin, have fasted for an hour, and seek to live in charity and love with their neighbors. Persons conscious of grave sin must first be reconciled with God and the Church through the Sacrament of Penance.

For other Christians: We welcome to this celebration of the Eucharist those Christians who are not fully united with us. It is a consequence of the sad divisions of Christianity that we cannot extend to them a general invitation to receive Communion. Catholics believe that the Eucharist is an action of the celebrating community and is the real body and blood of Christ signifying a oneness in faith, life, and worship of the community. Reception of the Eucharist by Christians not fully united with us would imply a oneness which does not yet exist and for which we must all pray.


Following the wedding, the license is returned to the city/town hall from which it was obtained. Should you need a copy of the marriage certificate, one may be obtained from the Rectory.

Register in your parish as soon as possible after your wedding. You are now a new family, and it will be your responsibility to register in the parish where you will be living, whether it is at St. Anthony Parish or elsewhere. As a Catholic family, you receive a call and a challenge. “The laity are gathered together in the People of God and make up the Body of Christ under one Head…. They are called upon, as living members, to expend all their energy for the growth of the Church and its continuous sanctification.” (Dogmatic Constitution of the Church.)

We congratulate you on your upcoming marriage. Please remember the sacredness of marriage. Besides being a very meaningful social occasion for you and your families, it is a profoundly sacred event, as you are receiving the Sacrament of Matrimony. By your marriage in the Church, you are making a public statement of your faith and your fidelity to each other and to Christ, within the community of the Church. Please take the time before your marriage to prepare yourselves spiritually for life together, as married people in the Church.

Wedding Background Form

As an alternative to filling out the form below, you can also print the form and return it to us in person, by mail, or by fax.


Marriage According to the Catechism

The Catechism of the Catholic Church on Marriage (1659-1666):

St. Paul said: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church … This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the Church” (Eph 5:25, 32).

The marriage covenant, by which a man and a woman form with each other an intimate communion of life and love, has been founded and endowed with its own special laws by the Creator. By its very nature it is ordered to the good of the couple, as well as to the generation and education of children. Christ the Lord raised marriage between the baptized to the dignity of a sacrament (cf. CIC, can. 1055 § 1; cf. GS 48 § 1).

The sacrament of Matrimony signifies the union of Christ and the Church. It gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church; the grace of the sacrament thus perfects the human love of the spouses, strengthens their indissoluble unity, and sanctifies them on the way to eternal life (cf. Council of Trent: DS 1799).

Marriage is based on the consent of the contracting parties, that is, on their will to give themselves, each to the other, mutually and definitively, in order to live a covenant of faithful and fruitful love.

Since marriage establishes the couple in a public state of life in the Church, it is fitting that its celebration be public, in the framework of a liturgical celebration, before the priest (or a witness authorized by the Church), the witnesses, and the assembly of the faithful.

Unity, indissolubility, and openness to fertility are essential to marriage. Polygamy is incompatible with the unity of marriage; divorce separates what God has joined together; the refusal of fertility turns married life away from its “supreme gift,” the child (GS 50 §1).

The remarriage of persons divorced from a living, lawful spouse contravenes the plan and law of God as taught by Christ. They are not separated from the Church, but they cannot receive Eucharistic communion. They will lead Christian lives especially by educating their children in the faith.

The Christian home is the place where children receive the first proclamation of the faith. For this reason the family home is rightly called “the domestic church,” a community of grace and prayer, a school of human virtues and of Christian charity.

Other Quotes

“How can I ever express the happiness of a marriage joined by the church….? How wonderful the bond between two believers, now one in hope, one in desire one in disciline, one in the same service..undivided in spirit and flesh, truly two in one flesh.Where the flesh is one, so also is the spirit.”


Music Suggestions

Typically, music is used at the following parts of the Wedding Mass:

Seating of Guests

Instrumental or vocal selections

Seating of the Mothers

Ava Maria – Schubert
Lady of Knock – Scallon
Hail Mary, Gentle Woman – Landry
As I Kneel Before You


Trumpet Voluntary – “Prince of Denmark’s March” – Clarke
Bridal Chorus (From Lohengrin) – Wagner
St. Anthony Chorale – Hayden
Canon in D – (Best for Bridal Party) – Pachelbel
Jesus Joy of Man’s Desiring – Bach

Responsorial Psalm

Blest Are Those (Psalm 128) – Haugen
Sing a New Song (Psalm 98) – Schutte
God Is Love – Haas
The Earth is Full of Goodness – Hass

Gospel Acclamation

Celtic Alleluia – Walker

Offertory Preparation Rite

Wedding Song – Stookey
Irish Wedding Song – Betteridge
Bridal Prayer – Copeland
The Gift of Love – Hopson
Dwelling Place – Foley
I Have Loved You – Joncas


Panis Angelicus – Franck
Taste and See – Moore
One in Body Heart and Mind – Walker
Where Ever You Go – Haas
Where There Is Love – Haas
Faith Hope and Love – Haas
Jesus Joy of man’s Desiring (Vocal or Solo Trumpet) – Bach


Nuptial Blessing – Joncas
By My Side – Porter


Hornpipe – Handel
Wedding March – Mendelssohn
Ode to Joy – Beethoven
Rondeau – Mouret
Psalm XVIII – Marcello
Rejoicing (From Royal Fireworks) – Handel